entropy of language and relationships
As the relationship between two people matures, the language they use get subjected to entropic forces which can endanger the relationship itself:
- Silences become more meaningful since the two parties know so much about each other. This leads to more interpretation-heavy dialogues and thereby causes an increase in the number of misinterpretations.
- Two parties sooner or later feel that the standard words in circulation are inadequate for describing the quirkinesses of their shared lives. They effortlessly invent new words whose repeated use can make events feel cuter than they objectively are. The unconscious drive for these inventions are guided not by a desire for transcendence but by a dire need for enrichment.
- As the two parties become more adept at comprehending each other, they feel greater liberty to increase the energy-efficiency of their communications. When speaking to each other, they start to use less words per sentence and pronounce words faster than usual. These compression attempts inevitably lead to more misinterpretations.
- As the two parties spend more time with each other, the average anticipated value of their dialogues diminishes. This leads to less care and empathy which in turn lead to less "real listening" and more conflicts.