masculinized femininity
Since there is a innate need to preserve balance of power, masculine women are naturally inclined to marry feminine men. But such relationships eventually create positive feedback loops that make them even more masculine.
It is well-known that long experience in business life makes one more fierce, unforgiving and masculine. That is essentially why business women are over-represented in pole dancing lessons. They are desperately trying to restore their femininity.
My advice: Marry a man more masculine than yourself if you worry about your femininity.